To Rustin Cohle’s Defense ;-)

(As a team, where I also consult- at our beautiful counseling center called Inner Space Counseling, we decided to do a round of defense mechanisms in pop fictional characters for Mental Health week 2016. I chose Rusty, here’s an article on what could really be going on in his intelligent but dark mind.)

Why True Detectiveyes, season one

Psychological defenses are necessary for us to cope with the pressure and demands of leading a civilized life. All of us are obliged to employ defense mechanisms, and we all do so- unconsciously- everyday! It’s the “tricks” that our mind plays so we can deal with inner conflicts, unpleasantness and to prevent a tide of overwhelm- in order to stay composed and function “better”. While they seem very much like our allies, they can pose a lot of problems as well- like the auto-correct on our phones that don’t always help… But that’s a text message, and this, is life. To explain this at play in as close to real life as possible, and accessible to all, I’ve chosen the broody Detective Rustin Cohle (Matthew McConaughey) from the 8 episode long popular mini-series True Detective’s Season One by HBO.

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It’s based on real events, and since the writer has written a riveting multilayered story just as real life can be, I’ve chosen a popular fiction character to help better explain psychological defences in daily life rather than a textual one. Its a fantastic cop story unlike the typical ones- focussing on the growth of characters- Rustin: a complex, intense, intelligent, pessimist who’s past is dark; and Martin- an easy going charming man but self-cenetred family man who vehemently challenges monogamy but only secretly- set in 1995 to 2012 Louisiana. Along with Rusty’s hypnotic dialogue delivery, each time I revisit it, there are more and more psychological nuances that reveal themselves. The non-verbals are so bang-on, I wonder how did they manage to do it- I’ve so far not been able to fault it. If you have seen True Detective, proceed only then 🙂 Take this as your spoiler alert for the whole article!!

 What is so peculiar about Rust?

“I know who I am. And after all these years, there’s a victory in that.” -Cohle (writer Nic Pizzolatto)

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                With Rusty, you’re bound to have a strong reaction as the use of minimal defense mechanisms contribute to the intensity of his character as compared to the ‘herd’ (along with his depressing past). Using fewer defense mechanisms can make it difficult for people to be or relate with him: he ends up being constantly confrontative and look-at-reality (his depressing version of it) kind of person. The following adjectives help us sketch his personality type – shown as a misanthrope, he is highly self-aware, truthful, responsible, messed up, cruel, obsessive, perceptive, intelligent and socially aloof- all rolled in one, as shown repeatedly throughout the story.

What is Rusty coping with? How does he really defend himself psychologically?- hint: by hitting a special reset button in his mind and as a conclusion, operating from his infamous pessimistic philosophy

The entire article is here: (Since I cant repost it and I’ve submitted that article to Inner Space, and my love for Rustin Cohle, Nic Pizzolatto & the full True Detective story had to be shared on my blog, I’ve made an entry here- my analysis is in the link below)

http://innerspacetherapy.in/self-help-and-improvement/defenses-of-rusty/

I enjoyed it, hope you do too!!

Anxiety related bodily problems

While some of us may be unaware of the connection between feelings of helplessness we experience day to day, and the resultant anxiety to that with our anxiety headaches, indigestion, loose motions, heart palpitations, etc.,  in which our body reacts, some are a bit too aware and analytical about it.

Anxiety symptoms, are symptoms. Not problems. And our attention is required at these little annoyances and discomforts only to help us lead the way to these problems. These problems need, require, our attention. It helps to remember this from time to time.. Problems need solving- symptoms are only signals! If we only hear our heart beating fast, feel restless, sweaty without known reason, shortness of breath due to some worry, it’s time to pause.. attend to these.. trace the problem.. And acknowledge it from within.

Road less travelled – the book, talks about it. So does the Johnny Depp movie Alice in Wonderland, albeit in metaphors.

Look underneath those bodily symptoms, find your real pain.. The outcome may not be one of feeling overjoyed, but can simply be freeing.

Love & Best wishes,
Kunjal.

What is Anxiety?

 

What is Anxiety?

Inacceptability of Reality.

Think.

That simple.

Reality undigested = Being partially aware and running away from that awareness = often causing gastric trouble for e.g.

A little more awareness, or a litle more of undigested reality in your face, coupled with  higher intensity of desire to look in the other direction… panic attacks.

What reality am I talking about? For a school phobic, its not the reality of physical existence of school. For a claustropbhobe, it isn’t about enclosed places. That is a given. And those ae maifestations. It’s what our troublesome zones represent to us personally and uniquely- however big or small- and the belief that it challenges which you, me, us wish to avert, postpone, deny.. Our adult variation of the kind of pain a child would go through when against the baby’s wish, the baby, even if for a little while has to stay away from a parent..

Think. Sometimes our own guiding pals, our beliefs are not what they seem and instead maybe troubling us, if so, it is needless to say it’s not helping anymore.. Perhaps it is time to throw out those dear comfortable beliefs that do not serve us anymore.. then we maybe able to adapt. Start excercizing as much will power as you can in the given moment (it will always differ from time to time and circumstances you’re in, so don’t push yourself to the point of being hard on yourself!), and breeeeeaaatthe. All you have to do, is work BIT by BIT to look at these thoughts the ones that bother, and stop your shock feeling associated with it- HOW? – simply look. Take the SMALLEST thought- babysteps- and look. The shock will pass. You’ll have moved one step ahead on road to enriched living. 🙂

 

Do it with someone, experienced and professional, the better, or Do as much as you can, SLOWLY.. and work toward your own freedom 🙂

 

Lots of Love~

 

Selfish vs Selfless ?

“Should one be selfish and their ‘good’ lies in it? But what if they hurt other people who are close? What should the priorities be? And what about the social and spiritual sense of things – – shouldn’t one be selfless and loving, giving?”

In an intuitive sense, most people seem to know what to do without having a moral dilemma- at least such a dilemma is not an everyday phenomenon for many. So this is for those tough moments, the ones before decision making and the hindsight ones we catch ourselves in at times:

(A quote by Rev Chariji referring to his Guru (Master), Revered Babuji Maharaj)

“My Master used to say that there are two duties every human being has – One has to, himself or herself, achieve self-development to the highest possible level, and the other is service to the society as His devotee. Obviously the second one can result in perfection only as the first one moves towards perfection.”

I hope this helps. Deep inside we may know, what is healthy and development oriented in any form, field in our life If not, learning how to tune in to see the difference between thought, impulse and the voice of heart helps weed out the inner conflicts and stress sources, to reach an integrated oneness.


Art & Cognitive Dissonance

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Living with a lot of dissonance, inner conflict and ambivalence can be confusing, tumultuous and painful.

Relaxing and finding a comfortable environment and space, expressing, relaxing, more expressing and being open to approach life as an exploration; observing without judging, can help bring clarity, peace and integrity.

Art helps. Especially, with the expressing and relaxing.